March Madness Challenge ~ Day 5

Day 5 (E) ~ Embrace

meerkat hugs

Embrace = encouragement = comfort = empathy = enjoy = caring = love = good feeling = positive thoughts & positivity!

Go hug (or hugg as a new pal of mind would say, Suzette!) someone today. 🙂

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20 Responses to March Madness Challenge ~ Day 5

  1. crazyruthie says:

    sorry, i commented on that idea out of order. when you said both of us should go to the beach and take pictures. next week i meant that was a good idea.

    it would be lovely to be so close to the water. water is so cool. lol

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    • Doh, I didn’t realise! Thanks for clarifying 🙂 I love and respect the sea and believe it holds so many more answers and life than ever would be found in the heavens but thats just my opinion ~ ha ha 🙂

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      • crazyruthie says:

        The sea has an aura of mystery and power. I think it would be inspiring to be there. My only problem is driving. It’s too far me to go alone, but maybe I could convince my husband to go!

        There is a creek in a valley really close by. There are all sorts of great things to take pictures; maybe I’ll try that!

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      • Indeed it does. Understand re the driving as I have a limit to have far I can drive alone as well. Ask him sweetly enough and maybe yes ~ lol !
        The words creek and valley put all sorts of lovely images in my head. These days I take my camera everywhere with me and am really enjoying taking shots of stacks of normal every day stuff. Cheers again crazyruthie, hope you day is good. 🙂

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      • crazyruthie says:

        Maybe he will! I can be sweet if I try, lol! How far is your driving limit? Do you know why you have the block about driving, if you don’t mind me asking?

        I am agoraphobic, though it’s getting a bit better,yay! I’m terrified of getting lost. I can only drive to places I’ve been lots of times before.

        Creek and valley are very evocative words. The hills should be green(they turn brown in late summer until spring). There are lots of eucalyptus trees around there. I bet you’d like it!

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      • Yes crazyruthie we can all be sweet when we need to be, lol. My limit is about as far as to my Mums where I am at the minute as she is quite unwell and I fear she may be admitted to hospital later today after another doctor has visited. She is just over 50 miles from me. Prior to this lengthened stay I would drive up one day, stay over and drive back the next day. The main reason is not really a mental block, it is a physical one as I have bad arthritis in my wrists, hands and particularly the thumbs. Saying that, once I am home, I have lately really struggled to ‘go out’ and when I did I totally freaked out if there were too many people or cars around. So I tend to try to go out at quieter times. I just cannot handle lots of people, too much ‘business’, things going on. I did find that the more I stayed in, the less I wanted to go out and when I did I felt a little like an alien as I did not feel right if that makes any sense to you!?
        I am so glad your Agoraphobia is getting a little better. My advice would be TAT which is Tiny, Achievable, Tasks. Basically just a little at a time which I am using in all sorts of ways in my life atm and it serves me well I have to say.
        Oh and yes I would like the trees around you, I love all things nature. What country are you in if you don’t mind me asking please? Just so you know, I have severe but inconsistent memory issues and can get very muddled/confused if I do not take things slowly and only seem able to concentrate on one thing at a time. I am dearly hoping I get some medical answers soon as this has been going on for over a year now and tbh Ive forgotten what its like to feel the way I was before! Hope I have not rambled on too much!

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      • crazyruthie says:

        I like rambling! I have problems with memory an confusion, too! Mine is because of my meds. Neither of us will remember what we were talking about! We can have the same conversation over and over and never get bored. 🙂 lol

        TAT is a great way to deal with things! I’m from the USA, I live in northern California, not far from San Francisco. :). It’s an awesome place, I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else.

        I’m so sorry that your mother’s health is so poor, I’ll keep her in my thoughts.

        What you say makes perfect sense. The longer I avoid going out of the house, the more bizarre it seems. Sometimes I feel like I won’t be able to talk cause I don’t speak to anyone other than my husband at breakfast, until he gets home.

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      • Excellent! They blame most of my confusion etc on meds too as my brain scan shows Trigeminal nerve pressure etc but other than a few white spots, not much else to explain it. Trouble is, we need the meds for pain etc so can’t change that so are basically stuck with it I guess. Sometimes on a good pain day (if you know what I mean) I feel ‘normal’ until my partner gets home and once I start chatting its clear somethings ‘not right’ as I get all mixed up and that. It can be quite amusing sometimes tbh and if we can have a laugh about it then all the better as I’m not going down the depression route again, no way.
        Ha ha re having same chat ~ we can be like goldfish in a bowl cos apparently they only have a 10 second memory. Not sure which goldfish told them that though.
        Wow you live in a very big place then! I only know what I see on the tv about your area and I expect there is an awful lot more to it than that. Brilliant that you are so settled there. To find somewhere you can really call home, the place where your heart belongs is amazing. Not everyone is as lucky as us in that way so theres a positive for us too.
        Thanks for your comment on my Mum, it is not very nice at all. She has never been a ‘sickly’ person so its quite weird to be here basically babysitting and caring for her. She has new antibiotics now, so hopefully she will pick up in a day or so.
        Another ha ha now re your comment about not speaking to anyone all day and when your husband comes home I expect you sound a bit gibberish, I know I do. Mind you I talk to my 2 cats as well as myself and sing along to music etc, just to be sure my vocal chords are working. lol. When I do go out it is not long before I am wanting to be home again but I must try to get out, do stuff and mix with people. Trick is finding a day where my health, wealth and personality are all up to it at the same time!

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      • crazyruthie says:

        haha! meds can be a real double edged sword. it’s like you say, can’t stop taking them, so i guess we just have to deal with it as it is. it’s hard not to get angry about it. it’s one of the few things that makes me really wish to be like a “normal” person.

        i talk to my dog and to nobody and i even argue with myself. hehe

        when andrew gets home i pounce on him, immediately asking questions and not letting him chill out. i talk too much when i’m anxious and he’s very introverted. when he gets home from work he just wants to be quiet and mellow. we’ve had many a discussion about that. i sometimes feel like i do when i’m deep into a book and have been reading for hours and suddenly have contact with a person, a real life person! being alone for a long time is a lot like that. i’m surprised at how i need my solitude now, though. when andrew has more than a couple of days off we both get snappy with each other; we want our daily routine of being left alone!

        what is the cause of your mother’s illness, if you don’t mind me asking?

        i’m very lucky to be here! actually it’s not really luck, i chose to move here for university (as far from my family as possible) in ’89. i’ve been here since. i still live in the first house we bought. we’ve been here for 15 years. we bought the house before it was built! so fun. it turned out to be a perfect location and a house i love. we’ve started making improvements, so it’s still nice after all this time.

        did i say this already (LOL)? i’ve been to cornwall. to see tintagel. that was an eternity ago. looking off the cliffs into the water is weird, i sort of felt like there were sirens in the water below, trying to get you to leap off and into their arms. 🙂

        😀

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      • I am sure I answered this but its in my pending group?? No idea what has caused Mums cancer but then my lovely Dad dies of small cell lung cancer which is the one most smokers that succumb die from yet he never smoked a fag in his life and was never in smoky environments so he should not have been taken by that. There is no rhyme or reason with this terrible disease.
        You have been to Cornwall!!! I used to live near Tintagel, thats North Cornwall. Now I live in the far West which I much prefer, far more rugged and fits me if you know what I mean. `the cliffs here are awesome but sadly yes there are some specific spots where suicides are relatively common. Terribly sad but maybe thats where the ‘sirens’ you speak of come from, their sad souls reaching out?

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      • crazyruthie says:

        You lost your dad to cancer? That’s awful and must be incredibly scary for your mum. Well, and for the whole family.: (

        I went to tintagel with my mother when I was 16. Some day I’ll explain the circumstances, but other than Cornwall being a lovely place, it was horrible. Anything involving my mother was horrible. That’s why I was standing a the top a cliff looking down.

        Do yo actually w eat pasties? Lol! I love them!

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      • Yes I did crazyruthie, within 8 months of diagnosis, he was gone. It was the worst thing ever in my whole life as I adored him so so much. We had a great and very special relationship. Everyone loved my Dad 🙂 Yes indeed BUT at least we are a bit more aware of what may happen and what resources are available which helps.
        Oh dear crazyruthie that does sound like theres an awful lot to that issue, how very sad and bad for you.
        Hey you like pasties, great! Yes we eat them and I am told I make a mean one! 🙂

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  2. crazyruthie says:

    Hugs to you! 🙂

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    • and back to you crazyruthie Hope yr weekend is good

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      • crazyruthie says:

        Thnx! I just walked my dog and it’s a beautiful spring day, so I think the weekend should be good. I’m hoping to do some painting. I’m going to post a new doodle in a moment!

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      • It is a gorgeous day here too. Was hoping to get out to take some sea shots but had to rush up to my Mums as she is poorly so just seeing it from the window atm. Will check out the doodle 🙂

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      • crazyruthie says:

        Sorry to hear about your mum! I don’t know how old you are, but I know it’s hard as hell to see our parents start to get old and less functional.

        The sea changes so much from one hour to the next. I ought to go to to a beach and take pictures. It would be nice to smell the ocean and watch the waves come in. 🙂

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      • Thanks crazyruthie. Crikey don’t start me on parents ageing, passing over etc. I have still not dealt ‘properly’ with the loss of my lovely lovely dear Dad almost 5 years ago :(.
        Anyhow, thanks for comments again, much appreciated. Ooh the sea, it stands still for no-one and is so hypnotic to watch, smell and feel I agree. Perhaps we should both try our best to get down there next week. 🙂

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      • crazyruthie says:

        Oh dear, I can only imagine what it will be like to lose my dad. that’s an excellent idea! How far are you from the sea? I’m about an hour by car from a few different places that that have beaches. It sure will be cold!

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      • ?? dont understand the excellent idea crazyruthie but thanks for your response. I am about 10 minutes away by car, 5 minutes on the wings of a bird and 30 if I walk. I am very lucky to have such fantastic places on my doorstep although I am guilty of not exploring them enough tbh but its more a case of time and weather really. Well thats my excuse!

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